When Ikhtilat is permissible???

Syeikh Abdul Karim Zaidan in his book ' the explanation regarding women' or (المفصل فى الأحكام المرأة) said ikhtilat is allowed in Islam when it comes for Needs and Urgency. Needs or (الحاجة) is refering to needs which can not be denied and Urgency or (الضرورة) is of course urgency. regarding the needs for ikhtilat, it is allowed when it comes for some reasons:

1. ikhtilat is allowed in the transaction which is allowed in Syara' i.e business transaction and etc

2. ikhtilat is allowed when it is for the judgement process as the plaintiff or defendant may be from different genders and non-family related, supported by Imam at-Tabari.

3. ikhtilat is allowed when it for the sake of good deeds and diminishing the bad deeds or amal ma'ruf nahi munkar. as reported by Ibnu Hazim, Saidina Umar al-Khattab had appointed a female person namely as-Syifa to be a mayor for the city.

4. ikhtilat is allowed when it comes to serve the husband guest or her guest. As reported by Imam Bukhari, Ummu Usaid had served his guest which is Prophet Mohammad s.a.w.

5. ikhtilat is allowed when it comes to public places and vehicles.

6. ikhtilat is allowed when it comes to jihad fi sabilillah. As reported by Imam Bukhari in his sahih;ar-Rabei binti Muawwiz said that; we have been together with the Rasulullah treating those who are injured in war, giving water to drinks and sending the dead body back to madinah.

wallahualam.

...أهلا وسهلا ومرحبا بكم

...السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

As regards to the previous posts, it can be seen that the subject matter (mad’u) in our dakwah is teenagers.

Why we specific it to teenagers? Because nowadays, there are too many problems regarding these teenagers. For example, social ills regarding female teenagers not wearing aurah properly, teenagers who had elope, disrespect the older and so on.

We are focusing more on the issue of female teenagers. Why female teenagers become our priority? Because the women position had become an issue since the jahiliyyah period.

As we can see in the jahiliyyah period, the positions of woman are not recognized and had been lowered down.  The most crucial example is they are willing to bury their daughter alive in order to preserve their reputation.

As in Quran,

وَإِذَا بُشِّرَ أَحَدُهُم بِالْأُنثَىٰ ظَلَّ وَجْهُهُ مُسْوَدًّا وَهُوَ كَظِيمٌ

“And when one of them is informed of [the birth of] a female, his face becomes dark, and he suppresses grief.”  Surah An Nahl : 58

And,
يَتَوَارَىٰ مِنَ الْقَوْمِ مِن سُوءِ مَا بُشِّرَ بِهِ ۚ أَيُمْسِكُهُ عَلَىٰ هُونٍ أَمْ يَدُسُّهُ فِي التُّرَابِ ۗ أَلَا سَاءَ مَا يَحْكُمُونَ


“He hides himself from the people because of the ill of which he has been informed. Should he keep it in humiliation or bury it in the ground? Unquestionably, evil is what they decide.” Surah An Nahl : Ayat 59


And,


وَكَذَٰلِكَ زَيَّنَ لِكَثِيرٍ مِّنَ الْمُشْرِكِينَ قَتْلَ أَوْلَادِهِمْ شُرَكَاؤُهُمْ لِيُرْدُوهُمْ وَلِيَلْبِسُوا عَلَيْهِمْ دِينَهُمْ ۖ وَلَوْ شَاءَ اللَّهُ مَا فَعَلُوهُ ۖ فَذَرْهُمْ وَمَا يَفْتَرُونَ


“And likewise, to many of the polytheists their partners have made [to seem] pleasing the killing of their children in order to bring about their destruction and to cover them with confusion in their religion. And if Allah had willed, they would not have done so. So leave them and that which they invent”.  Surah Al An’am : Ayat 137

The killing of babies alive are happens due to the fear of poverty. According to Imam al Qurthubi, among Arab nation they killed their babies due to the fear of poverty. They also killed them without any reason. They are clan of Rabiah and Mudlar who killed their daughters in order to preserve their dignity.

The discrimination on women not only confined to bury the daughters alive, but also affect to their life as a whole. A father can sell his daughter, men used them to satisfy their lust, they became slave that can be ordered anytime and did not have any rights in this world include right to inherit. From this situation, it can be seen that their position are too low compared to other genders.

After the coming of Islam, the position of women is dignified and towards a higher level. There is no more discrimination on them and they are now entitling to their rights in life. As we can see, women nowadays are having opportunity to seek knowledge, got their position in society, can hold position as a teacher, lawyer.

However, women nowadays did not realize what Islam has brought to them. Many of them act in contrary with what had been laid down in Syariah. As consequences, they had lowering their honour and dignity.  The examples which lead to the consequences can be seen from the posts above.

From the previous posts, we can see the problems involve the teenagers such as female teenagers not cover aurah properly, the child who disrespect their parents, teenagers who elope and so on.

As a conclusion, women need to preserve their aurah and dignity. There are reasons with what had been laid down by Syariah. And the reasons must be good and for the benefit to the Muslims and society as a whole. For examples it can prevent the social illness occur among the teenagers. Besides that, it can elevate the status of Islam in the eyes of the world. As Muslims, we need to consider the entire act done by us, because all of the acts with be questioned in the Hereafter, like Prophet Muhammad saw said:

كُلُّكُمْ رَاعٍ، وَكُلُّكُمْ مَسْؤولٌ عَنْ رَعِيَّتِهِ، فَالأَمِيرُ رَاعٍ وَهُوَ مَسْؤُولٌ، وَالرَّجُلُ رَاعٍ عَلَى أَهْلِهِ وَهُوَ مَسْؤُولٌ، وَالْمَرْأَةُ رَاعِيَةٌ عَلَى بَيْتِ زَوْجِهَا وَهِيَ مَسْؤُولَةٌ، أَلاَ وَكُلُّكُمْ رَاعٍ، وَكُلُّكُمْ مَسْؤُولٌ عَنْ رَعِيَّتِهِ

Narrated Ibn Umar: The Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, said: “All of you are shepherds and each of you is responsible for his flock. A man is the shepherd of the people of his house and he is responsible. A woman is the shepherd of the house of her husband and she is responsible. Each of you is a shepherd and each is responsible for his flock.”

Ikhtilat (Free mixing between man and woman)

According to Shaykh Muhammad Bin Ibrahim Aal-Al Sheikh [1311-1389 H (1893-1969 AD)], the former Grand Mufti of Saudi Arabia, said that free mixing between men and women can be of three types.

1)The mixing of women with men who are their Mahram (husband and men whom she may never marry, e.g. father, brother, son etc) which is permissible.

2)The mixing of women with non-Mahram men for evil and depraved purposes which is prohibited (haram).

3)The mixing of women with non-Mahram men in educational institutes, shops, offices, hospitals, get-togethers, parties etc.

Therefore, mixing of women with non-Mahram men for evil and depraved purposes is not allowed (haram). This is because Allah made men to have a natural inclination towards women and gave them power over the females and vice versa. Hence, when free mixing occurs between women and (non-Mahram) men, it will cause to bad intention as the human’s fitrah (nature) self is inclined towards evil and (carnal) desires make a person blind and dumb, while Satan commands people to do indecent and evil things.

Evidence is based on the Hadith of the Prophet pertaining to the Command to avoid Zina (Unlawful Sex) and everything that leads to it. Reported by At-Tirmithee and Ahmad: The Prophet (Sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam) said,

"A man must never be alone with a woman, for verily the Satan is their third."

Al Qardawi interpreting the above hadith states that Islam prohibits khalwah between a man and women outside mahram relationship on the basis that to protect the parties from the evil thought and sexual desires which will naturally arise from man and women if they are let to be alone together without the intrusion by the third party.

In addition, according to Imam Ibn Qayyim (may Allah have Mercy on him) he said:

“There is no doubt that enabling women to mix freely (ikhtilat) with men is the root of every calamity and evil. It is one of the biggest reasons for general punishment (from Allah) to befall (a society). It is also one of the reasons of corruption of general and specific matters. Free-mixing between men and women is also the reason for increase in immorality and illegal sexual intercourse (zina). It is one of the reasons of widespread death and incessant plagues.

One of the greatest reasons of widespread death is fornication and adultery (zina) due to enabling women to mix freely with men and move among them made up and dressed up. Had the rulers known what corruption it causes in worldly affairs and the society, before the hereafter, they would have been the strictest in stopping it.” [Al-Turuq Al-Hukmiyyah, page 407-408]

As conclusion, I will conclude by mentioning a few verses of the Qur'an. Allah says: "Nor come nigh to adultery". In this verse, Allah does not say "Do not commit adultery" but tells us not even to come close to it. This means that everything that may seduce a person to fall into adultery is unlawful. Therefore, we as a Muslimah shall guard our modesty and always behave in Islamic manner internally and externally especially when we deal with men. Wallahualam.

الشعرعن المرأة

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

 

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لو خلقت المرأة طائراً لكانت طاووساً

ولو خُلقت حيواناً لكانت غزالة

ولو خُلقت حشرة لكانت فراشة
 

ولكـنـها خُـلـقـت بـشـراً

فأصبحت حبيبة وزوجة وأماً رائعة ،

وأجمل نعمة للرجل على وجه الأرض

فلو لم تكن المرأة شيء عظيم جداً

لما جعلها اللّه حورية يُكافئ بها المؤمن

Story of the four wives

Once upon a time there was a rich King who had four wives. He loved the 4th wife the most and adorned her with rich robes and treated her to the finest of delicacies. He gave her nothing but the best. He also loved the 3rd wife very much and was always showing her off to neighboring kingdoms. However, he feared that one day she would leave him for another. He also loved his 2nd wife. She was his confidant, and was always kind, considerate and patient with him. Whenever the King faced a problem, he could confide in her, and she would help him get through the difficult times.

The King's 1st wife was a very loyal partner and had made great contributions in maintaining his wealth and kingdom. However, he did not love the first wife. Although she loved him deeply, he hardly took notice of her! One day, the King fell ill and he knew his time was short. He thought of his luxurious life and wondered, "I now have four wives with me, but when I die, I'll be all alone.

Thus, he asked the 4th wife, "I have loved you the most, endowed you with the finest clothing and showered great care over you. Now that I'm dying, will you follow me and keep me company?"

"No way!", replied the 4th wife, and she walked away without another word. Her answer cut like a sharp knife right into his heart.

The sad King then asked the 3rd wife, "I have loved you all my life. Now that I'm dying, will you follow me and keep me company?" "No!", replied the 3rd wife. "Life is too good! When you die, I'm going to remarry!" His heart sank and turned cold.

He then asked the 2nd wife, "I have always turned to you for help and you've always been there for me. When I die, will you follow me and keep me company?" "I'm sorry, I can't help you out this time!", replied the 2nd wife. "At the very most, I can only send you to your grave." Her answer came like a bolt of lightning, and the King was devastated.

Then a voice called out: "I'll leave with you and follow you no matter where you go." The King looked up, and there was his first wife. She was so skinny as she suffered from malnutrition and neglect. Greatly grieved, the King said, "I should have taken much better care of you when I had the chance!"

In truth, we all have 4 wives in our lives: Our 4th wife is our... body.No matter how much time and effort we lavish in making it look good, it will leave us when we die.

Our 3rd wife is our... possessions, status and wealth. When we die, it will all go to others.

Our 2nd wife is our... family and friends. No matter how much they have been there for us, the furthest they can stay by us is up to the grave.

And our 1st wife is our...Soul. Often neglected in pursuit of wealth, power and pleasures of the world. However, our Soul is the only thing that will follow us wherever we go.
Waallahua'lam.

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Women's inaccuracy regarding Awrah

I list several mistakes that are commonly practiced by Muslim women today regarding aurat:

 

ERROR 1: Aurat is ONLY about covering the hair.

ERROR 2: Wears hijab with short sleeve T-Shirt.

ERROR 3: Wears hijab with slitted skirts.

ERROR 4: Wears hijab with tight and transparent blouse that reveals body parts that lures a man.  

ERROR 5: Wears very loose hijab that causes the hair to be visible.

ERROR 6: Wears hijab only in the office. Not at home or around the mall.  

ERROR 7: Wears hijab but the end of the hijab is pulled up revealing the chest.

ERROR 8: Wear a hijab that is made of transparent material that causes the hair, neck and chest to be visible.

Some women believe that covering the aurat is only about covering the hair. This is totally inaccurate as Allah mentioned in Al-Qur'an:

وَلْيَضْرِبْنَ بِخُمُرِهِنَّ عَلَى جُيُوبِهِنَّ وَلَا يُبْدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلَّا لِبُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ آبَائِهِنَّ أَوْ آبَاء بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ أَبْنَائِهِنَّ أَوْ أَبْنَاء بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ إِخْوَانِهِنَّ أَوْ بَنِي إِخْوَانِهِنَّ أَوْ بَنِي أَخَوَاتِهِنَّ أَوْ نِسَائِهِنَّ أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُهُنَّ أَوِ التَّابِعِينَ غَيْرِ أُوْلِي الْإِرْبَةِ مِنَ الرِّجَالِ أَوِ الطِّفْلِ الَّذِينَ لَمْ يَظْهَرُوا عَلَى عَوْرَاتِ النِّسَاء

And tell the believing women to lower their gaze and to be mindful of their chastity, and not to display their charms [in public] beyond what may [decently] be apparent thereof; hence, let them draw their head-coverings over their bosoms. And let them not display [more of] their charms to any but their husbands, or their fathers, or their husbands' fathers, or their sons, or their husbands' Sons, or their brothers, or their brothers' sons, or their sisters' sons, or their womenfolk, or those whom they rightfully possess, or such male attendants as are beyond all sexual desire, or children that are as yet unaware of women's nakedness (An-Nur: 31)

The meaning of khumur (veil) is anything that is used to cover the head. Meanwhile ‘juyub' (the plural form of jaibun) is the curvature of the breast that is not covered with cloth. Therefore every woman must cover not only their head but also their chest including their neck and all other parts that may lure a male.   

According to Syeikh Dr Yusof Al-Qaradawi, the adornment mentioned in the above ayat refers to anything that is worn to beautify oneself; either natural beauty like face, hair and body; or man made beuatification like dress, embellishment, make-up and others.  

In the above ayat, Allah commanded women to conceal the adornment without any exemption. The only exemption was "what is apparent". The scholars therefore have differences in opinion about the meaning and extent of "what is apparent".

For example, Ibnu Abbas r.a, one of the great companions of the Prophet (s.a.w.) interpreted "what is apparent" as eyeliner and ring. Anas Bin Malik is also of the same opinion. Therefore, the body parts where the eyeliner and the ring are worn (i.e. the face and the palms) would also be considered as apparent. This also the opinon of the Tabien like Said bin Jubair, 'Atha', Auza'i and others.

However, Ummul Mukminin Aisyah r.a, Qatadah and a few others considered bracelet as something apparent. Therefore, the wrist (place of wearing a bracelet) is also considered as apparent if it does not cause any harm (fitnah).   Regarding the limit from the wrist to the elbow, it is still under discussion among the scholars; therefore it is better to cover parts between the wrist and the elbow.  

According to Syeikh Al-Qaradawi, make up (eye shadow, blusher, lipstick, nail polish etc) worn by women today does not fall under the category of "what is apparent". These make up although is worn on the face but it is excessive and could not be worn except inside the house. The purpose of women applying make up today is to beautify oneself and attract people's attention. Therefore, it is clearly haram to wear such make up outside the house.

In my opinion, it is best for a Muslim woman to conceal her adornment to her best ability including her face if possible, especially if she has a beautiful appearance. This would help minimize the widespread of social problems occurring in our society today.

وَلَا يُبْدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلَّا لِبُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ آبَائِهِنَّ

"...And not to reveal their adornment except to their husbands, or their fathers" (An-Nur: 31)

All the above mentioned is unanimously forbidden by the scholars. The ruling is directed towards Muslim women where they are not allowed to reveal any adornments on their body like embellishment of the ear (earing), embilleshment of the hair, embellishment of the neck (necklace), embellishment of breast (curvature) and embellishment of the leg (calf and "bangle"). They could reveal all these to the males (non-mahram). Only the face and the palms could be revealed.

Evidence (dalil) from al-Quran and al-Hadith clearly forbid women to wear attire that is made of transparent material that reveals their skin or tight attire that shows their body shape. Most importantly the attire should not reveal luring body parts such as the breast, the thigh and others.

In a hadith narrated by Abu Hurairah, Rasulullah s.a.w. said:

"Two are the types of the denizens of Hell whom I did not see: (1) people having flogs like the tails of the ox with them and they would be beating people (unjust rulers); (2) the women who would be dressed but appear to be naked, who would be inclined (to evil) and make others incline towards it. Their heads would be like the humps of the bukht camel inclined to one side. They will not enter Paradise and they would not smell its odour whereas its odour would be smelt from such and such distance" (Narrated by Muslim).

The women are said to wear attire but is still naked because they do have cloth on their body but it does not cover the aurat because it is transparent and exposes their skin; like the wearing of many women today. (Al-Halal Wal Haram Fil Islam, Dr Yusof Al-Qaradawi)

‘Bukhtun' is a type of camel that has a big hump. Women's hair looks like the hump of a camel when it is pulled and tangled over their head.  Although the hadith was revealed thousand years ago, the Prophet s.a.w. was able to warn us of what would happen now. Today there are various saloons that set hair for women with millions of fashion and sadly men are the hair setter at most of these saloons.

Prohibition to wear transparent clothing

Saidatina Aisyah r.a narrated that her sister Asma' binti Abu Bakar entered the house of the Prophet s.a.w wearing attire made of transparent material that showed her skin. The Prophet s.a.w turned away from her and said:

"Hai Asma'! Verily when a woman has achieved puberty, she should not reveal her body except for this and this - showing the face and the palms." (Narrated by Abu Daud)

Although there is a weak narrator in this hadith, it is strengthen by many other hadith that allows revealing of the face and the palms if it does not bring any harm (fitnah). Dr Yusof Al-Qaradawi explained that looking repeatedly at a man or woman (besides their aurat) without any desire is halal.

ERROR 9: Wears hijab but rides the motorbike revealing their calf.  

It was narrated in hadith that:-

 "Allah blesses women that wears trousers (inside their garment)" (Narrated by Al-‘Uqayli, Dar Qutni from Abu Hurairah, Musannaf Abd Razak, no 5043; Kanzul Ummal, no 41245).

According to Imam Mujahid, this hadith was narrated when a woman fell from her ride in front of the Prophet s.a.w and his companions. Her garment hoisted and the Prophet s.a.w turned away his face. The companions then told the Prophet s.a.w that the woman wore trouser inside her garment. As a response, the Prophet s.a.w complimented the woman and metioned the above hadith. (Al-Bayan wa At-Ta'rif, Ibn Hamzah al-Husyani, 3/ 252, no 1831)

Using the same hadith and according to the Mafhum Mukhalafah method in the study of Usul Fiqh, Allah then condemns women that do not wear trousers (inside their garment) when riding their transport.  

ERROR 10: Cover the aurat perfectly but enchants her voice when interacting with man. This includes singing and nasheed. It is not suitable for a woman to do da'wah via nasheed because the moment a woman gets on stage with her glamorous attire to perform nasheed, thousand of men's eyes get focused on her. We do not know where exactly the men are looking. Her enchanting voice also melts the heart of the listner and may arouse desires of some men although the woman only sings words praising God. 

Al-Qur'an prohibits woman from enchanting their voice when interacting with man. Allah SWT said: "...Then be not soft in speech, lest he in whose heart is a disease (of hypocrisy or evil desire for adultery) should be moved with desire; but speak in an honourable manner." (Al-Ahzab: 32)


thus, women should observed to not make the mistakes that as above, to make our awrah is observed accordingly. Waallahua'lam.